Embracing Positivity for a Fulfilling Dating Experience

If you ask people what their attitude is to modern dating, many will probably tell you that it's pretty rough for a variety of different reasons. You would think that because of the various tools that people can opt for (such as dating apps/websites), it's going to be much simpler, but that's not always the case.

A few years ago, when the pandemic struck the world, people used it as an excuse for poor dating experiences, however, even then, those who truly wanted to have a fulfilling dating experience thought of different, interesting ways to date.

But the point is that it seems as if people simply have given up and aren’t as optimistic as they used to be as far as this is concerned. However, if you decide to put an end to this negativity and restore a positive mindset, then maybe the tips below can help you accomplish that.

Take A Break If You Must

No matter how enjoyable dating sometimes is, the reality is, that frequently it can also be very draining, especially if you’ve been going on dates for quite some time. Even if you didn’t have “actual” dates, but you’ve been simply talking to others over dating apps/websites, these things do require a certain amount of energy.

After all, if you want your online dating to be successful, you need to create a profile that’s going to be eye-catching to others and spend hours, or days chatting in order to find someone who’s suitable for you. 

At times, it feels as if you have a full-time job. That’s how exhausting it can be, regardless of your dating goals. Even those who are looking for nothing but a fling are oftentimes demoralized, let alone those who are into slow dating and are trying to have something meaningful. Therefore, if you are currently not too motivated to do this, then it may be a sign to take a break from it all and focus on other aspects of your life.

Now, this doesn't instantly mean that this break should last for an eternity. Just until your "dating batteries" are recharged and you become ready to wear your heart on your sleeve once again.

And in the meantime (until you are one hundred percent ready), make sure to do things you thoroughly enjoy and spend some quality time with people you generally love, like your friends and family.

By doing something like this, you will take care of yourself and your needs, and, at the same time, prepare for new, upcoming dating adventures with a reframed mindset.

Dating Is Important, But Not The Most Important Thing In Life

Obsessing over your dating life and finding a partner, in general, is never a good thing. It’s okay if you’re tired of being single, however, if you think about it all the time, you will eventually become too anxious and completely go mad.

In a nutshell, you shouldn't let everything revolve around it, because if you do, then even the tiniest mishap that's related to it will appear like the biggest failure and you'll become miserable. That's precisely why you shouldn't perceive it as the most important aspect of it.

Keep in mind that dating should be something that’s going to make your life even more beautiful and exciting, not your only focus. Because if you’re obsessed with it too much, then you’re never going to be optimistic about it.

Therefore, you should put things (dating) in the right place, meaning, that you should perceive it as something that you need, but not as something that you can’t live without. Only then you’ll notice how things are changing for the better as far as this goes.

Embrace The Big Yes!

If you notice that the outcome is always the same (meaning negative) when it comes to your dates, and dating life, in general, then it’s time to change something about it. Maybe it’s a sign to step out of your comfort zone and embrace things that you haven’t considered before.

This is especially important if you are scared of doing certain things. For example, if your friends invite you to attend an event where you do not know anybody, say YES to it. On the other hand, if you are on a dating app/website, and you haven't considered meeting someone who lives in a different city or country before, then it's time to give it a try.

These are just some examples. The point is that you should become more open to new experiences and take the steps that you haven’t done before. It may be difficult at first, however, you’ll quickly see how pleasant this change is going to be.

You Need To Have Some Standards

Have you ever wondered why your dates are so bad? Is it maybe because you went on a date with practically anyone you talked to? If that’s the case, then it’s high time to become a bit pickier.

Of course, this doesn’t mean that you should be on a high horse and have standards that are too high, however, it also doesn’t mean that you should talk to just about anyone. People who have very low standards usually end up having very bad dating experiences, hence it’s of huge importance to be a bit picky. 

Then you’ll notice how your dating experiences have become much more pleasant and enjoyable. That’s because you go on dates with people you actually like. 

Take Things Lightly

If you want to have a positive mindset when it comes to dating, then you should change your perspective a bit. What does it mean? It means that you shouldn’t take things too seriously and constantly pressure yourself to find someone.

Bear in mind that your dates, and love life, in general, should be fun, and something that’s going to make you feel much better, not the source of stress, hence make sure to fully enjoy it.

Staying positive in the world of dating can be challenging, especially if you have had a string of awfully bad dates, however, if you pay attention to these awesome tips above, you’ll see that it’s not that hard, after all.