The abundance mindset

The abundance mindset

May 2015

By Megha Bajaj

The more you act like a giver, the more you have to give, says Megha Bajaj, as she divines the secret of abundance

Each person carries a certain dominant energy. Almost like a perfume, they emanate this, so to speak, “innate nature” in everything they do. There are some people who will only call/email or message when they want something. You can see their name in your inbox and you know, for sure, they need a favour. And then there are others, who, when they call, something within blossoms. You know they are only getting in touch for something good – either to share an opportunity, an idea, or some good news. I am beginning to realise both taking and giving are habits – and once you develop a dominant mindset for one, it is difficult to go the other way.

A needy person will be needy in most, if not all, relationships. A loving person will bring love into almost everything they do. An agitated person will carry his work-related agitation even home. A peaceful person will remain more or less peaceful in whatever he/she does. Although a generalisation is not possible  – it is safe to say there are certain dominant general traits we exhibit that start becoming our nature. I was just mulling over these thoughts when my facebook messenger beeped. I sighed as I saw the name. I knew she only messaged me when she wanted something. Needless to say she wanted me to recommend her for something to a mutual friend. As I started typing a reply, I realised something. All the people who struggle with scarcity – the ones who are always missed for the golden opportunities – are the ones who keep asking and asking. Unknowingly, they are always at the receiving end of life.

I stopped doing what I was, to understand the thoughts flowing in better. I realised that rich people – be it rich in health, wealth, happiness, love – were always those who kept giving. As I looked within my own family, I saw the examples so clearly, so vividly – almost like diagrams upon a white board: An aunt who loves to celebrate every little moment of life, whose predominant mindset was always to give – seemed to be living the most abundant life ever. She seemed to always be brimming over with the great things of life. Another aunt, the sister of this one, was always struggling. Either with finances, or illness, or in a relationship. I realised that although both were wonderful people, had the same set of parents, and upbringing – the difference in their lives was because the second aunt always thought like a receiver, and the first one always thought like a giver.

Giving makes one feel rich, abundant. Receiving makes one feel poor, scarcity-ridden. The more dominant one of the traits becomes in you, the more of that you start attracting in life. Don’t all the self-help books say it? Feel rich to become rich. It was now that I realised that the only way to feel rich was to behave rich – which means you believe you have enough, and more of it, and therefore want to share it wherever you go. I then reflected upon myself. I realised that with each passing day, I was learning to become a little more giving. It wasn’t effortless. Far from it. And yet, my heart, my mind, were opening a little each day, and I could see the direct impact of it upon my life. Each time we become a giver – in the smallest, or biggest aspect of our life – we start deepening the abundance mindset. Wishing you abundant times ahead!